From being the selfish, happy-go-lucky into a selfless, loving, compassionate person. You wouldn’t imagine how you could love a tiny human being so much that you can give all your time and energy to your child, and you are happy with that no matter how tired and worn out you become. That’s one of the bonuses of being a parent. . . until you start to feel scared you are doing it all wrong.
You start to question yourself; you think you’re not good enough and you feel guilty for so many reasons or no reason at all. When your child gets sick, you think it’s your fault. When you go to work, you feel guilty for depriving them of your time, or when you allow them more screen time because you’re tired, you’re already a bad one. Hey, stop punishing yourself. Being a parent is a difficult job and you’re not alone in this roller coaster ride. In fact, there’s a term that describes exactly how you are feeling. It’s called “parental guilt.”
Experts say it’s normal you feel that way and there are ways to overcome parental guilt like forgiving yourself and accepting that life isn’t perfect and that there is no single right way to do things. Comparing yourself to others specially in social media doesn’t help. Instead, try reaching out to someone you trust like your family, a friend, or your doctor.
Worrying about you being not a good parent means you are already one. So, whenever you feel that way, take it easy and be gentle to yourself.